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title: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey
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created_date: 2024-11-28
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updated_date: 2024-11-28
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aliases:
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tags:
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- book
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- self-help
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type: book
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book_name: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
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author: Stephen Covey
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status: finished
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---
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# The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey
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- **🏷️Tags** : #11-2024 #book
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## Summary
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> [!summary] Summary
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> 3 Sentences only!
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> - What are the main ideas?
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> - If I implemented one idea from this book right now, which one would it be?
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> - How would I describe the book to someone else?
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---
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## Ideas and Thoughts
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> [!info]+ Inspiring Questions
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> - Did you think about other concepts from other books?
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> - Do the concepts fit to your past, to your memories?
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> - Can you relive them and reflect them from a different angle?
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---
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## Clippings
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> [!info] Import Clippings from Kindle
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> Annotate Clippings with thoughts and cross references
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---
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## Notes
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### Paradigms and Principles
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Paradigms: what are my maps, my lenses, my ways to see, perceive and interpret the world, the relationships? The better I know them the more I can abstract, experiment, listen to others and thereby getting a larger picture and far more objective view.
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Most breakthroughs in science are usually a break with traditional methods and traditional ways of thinking. So called Paradigm Shifts.
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Character Ethics vs Personality Ethics: a paradigm shift which is negative: character ethics is based on principles deeply rooted, whereas personality ethics is based on attitude and behavior.
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Story of the man with the kids in the subway whose mother just died. Small adjustment —> you suddenly feel compassion
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In order to *see* differently, sometimes you need to *be* differently.
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Principles: fairness, integrity, honesty, human dignity, service, quality, excellence, potential, growth, patience, nurturance, encouragement.
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Principles are not practices, which are specific actions or activities and thus change with different circumstances. Principles are deeply rooted and materialize in terms of habits. They are not Values - values are the maps, trying to describe the underlying territory, which are the principles.
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### Private Victory
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#### Be Proactive
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Conditioning: it would be easy to say that *genetic, psychic (upbringing) and environmental (current environment ) determinism* shapes our behaviors. It‘s the stimulus / response theory which says we‘re conditioned to respond in a certain way to different stimuli.
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This lets us create a framework:
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> [!NOTE] Between Stimulus and Response, Man has freedom to choose
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> Victor Frankl, being tortured in the Nazi’s concentration camps realized that the last human freedom is to choose how different stimuli are going to affect you. Ergo you can choose your response.
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Projecting yourself to be where you want to be helps with choosing the right response today for a future goal.
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Self-awareness, imagination, conscience (deep inner awareness of what is right and wrong), independent will, are traits that help shape this ability to create a gap in between stimulus and response.
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Being proactive means that as a human being, we are responsible for our own life. Our behavior is a function of our decisions, not our conditions.
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Being proactive requires a paradigm shift: you need to abstract the stimulus and find out how it relates to your life and situation. Then you are free to chose the response.
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Act or be acted upon: you choose if you want to act or be acted upon.
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Language is important to distinguish between proactivism and reactivism. It shows how someone responds to circumstances.
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### Circle of Influence vs. Circle of Concern
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The circle of Concern: defines what you are concerned about.
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The circle of influence: is what you can actually influence.
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Proactive people focus on the circle of influence. What can they influence? Because everything else is not worthwhile to pursue.
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Problems can be of different nature:
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- direct control: private victories - this is in your realm of possibility
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- Indirect control: public victories - you need to influence other people for putting indirect control
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- No control: a proactive person acknowledges this and accepts the problem to be able to live with it
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A proactive person approaches every problem with this distinction
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The story about the distinct CEO that was very commanding reminds me of [[Floris]]. I have been very reactive there, as a proactive person I should have understood Florises inner workings and use them to better communicate. What are Florises weaknesses? How can I complement them? If Floris expects something, how can I fulfill that in his view? How can I present work of the team such that he agrees?
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What is my circle of influence within OneSec? And what is my circle of concern?
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Focus on being instead of having. Focus on problems that lie within your realm instead of problems out there. Focus on your attitude instead of other people’s weaknesses. Focus on your unconditional love and support for your partner and that will hopefully come back to you, in the end it is all that you can do.
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The consequences of our actions often lie in the circle of concern, but not in the circle of influence. Therefore, we cannot control them and need to accept them when they happened. Bad decisions are mistakes, we cannot change what happened in the past, and thus not change what is in the circle of concern, but rather our attitude to it and learn from the mistakes to not make them the next time around. That is what lies within the circle of influence. Ignoring past mistakes and not to correct it and learn from it makes everything worse, because it is self-deceiving often including lies to one-self and others.
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## Todos
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- [ ] what are paradigm shifts I have experienced?
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- [ ] What is my contribution to this world? How do I serve?
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## My Stories
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[[Stefan Fritsche|Dad]] hat auch ein paradigm shift gemscht, als er akzeptiert hat das der Lohnunterschied wegen der Einstufung nicht angepasst wird und er aber sich selber von einer anderen Seite gesehen hat mit Bezug auf Familie, Haus und generelles Wohlsein.
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